Face issues

Well, by hearing the title, people may start thinking some things, dirts? Pimples? Rimple? Taches? Or even thinking am i only have one eye?haha......

However, I am not going to talk about the physical problems, but the psychological problem:"losing face" . Perhaps it is a bit confused phase, actually it happens in an embrassing situation and how people feel like "losing face". Mostly, Eastern people are more afraid of losing face than the western people, becasue of culture difference or personalities.

I still remembered last Friday morning, i was waiting out side the class room for the teacher's coming. Another teacher was passing by, asking
" are you going to have a presentation?"
"Yes."
" You are dressing up like a waitress in the Chinese resturant, it doesn't suppose like this."

I was thinking," Am i wearing the wrong suit?""I don't think so , just normal suit without the suittop, that's it"

I was just smiling to him and looking back of him. I did not react on anywords but i felt my face was burning. Here i have say, my brain might stoped for a few seconds. After that, i think i should say "Thank you", nomater it means being angry or real thankness. At that moment, burning face told me i was nervous , was laughed at by the teacher, was embrassed by wearing the wrong clothes. If i was really wrong, i did not expect a stranger came to tell me in very mean way, would feel much better if a close come to tell me that.

For western people, in this situation, it will not hurt but they may think the teacher was impolite. That's it.


Sometimes, people just feel embrassed in some unexpected words and thoughs. Or when people really want to do something but are afraid,becasue they have already seen that the people arounding them are showing negative ideas, which becomes stones on the ways. In fact, people are starting thinking not to do the things they really want, in some case, they are afraid of losing face. Of course, not all the things people really want to do are right, just need to judge them.(It sounds easy, but hard to know. There is no short path to avoid the mistakes). Everything has the first time, and something need to be started. Losing face can be a little problem but also can be a big problem.