Marriage

It sounds like a bit serious topic. I just heared the story from a friend, her sister is going to divorce soon. I was a bit shocked but on the other hand was thinking if I am too traditional. Anyway I will first just simplely explain the story of her.

From the other people's sights, she has been living in a perfect life since four years ago.She got a really good husband, which is almost the "slave" of her. And even for her, she thought she was loving him. Just till several weeks ago, she met a new guy, and thought the guy was her big love.Later something happened and she realized the guy was an asshole. The problem is that she has cheated to her husband, and she found out she does not love her husband anymore. So it is obviouse they would better break up.

I am just thinking "what does the marriage mean to everyone" and "How do people look at it". Is it just a simple word instead of the relationship between man and woman? The western people are more open to it, or in the other word, perhaps they think getting divorced is easier to accept. If they do not love each other, why should they stay together.May just becasue of this reason, people easily think let's get marriade or let's get divorced. But it is not easy to make the brain fresh to think about if you really do not love her or him any more, or just other elements, such as current arguements, troubles or unsatisfaction. When people are not sure, I think it is better to re-think the situation but saying words or doing something so easily. In this situation, I agree some traditional thinking. Some gramma's age, they always look back, and is satisfied with their life alreay, the marriage is something they do not want to destory. The relationship may has alreay changed, it could become friendship, familyship or still love. Well, it also depends on different people, the attitude to the life. Just need to be save for self and also for partner, taking the serious consideriation.

And on the other hand, Sexual reason is also a big issue between the relationship, and I agree on it. I remembered that I asked a question to a very experienced man " Do you believe in the first sight love?" His answer is " No". He explained that it was just because of the physical reason, perhaps both of them just want to have sex. The answer is simple, but so far, I had no clue for it. I used to believe the first sight love, and maybe also experienced. And It is always hard to realize what actually it is. Now i also believe it, perhaps one day, i will have the same idea as he said. As I mentioned in the previous blog, the " players".... The sexual life is very important to everyone, and help people feel to have a better life. Anything can be the reason to stop the marriage, just everytime, people want to try new, feel different and always unsatisfied. They think they will have better life. Humans are powerful but just we can not indicate the things will happen in the future.

I am afraid that if the whole world is going to become that people only have sex around, even change everyday. What a sad world will be? What the poor life the humans will have? It will no any relationship and marriage exist. I don't like it at all. But just sometimes, all the problems we can not get rid of them.

Still the same sentence from the previous blog:" We are the stories, the stories are us"